Proposition: The complexity parameter \alpha (i.e. cp in R "rpart" package) is
\alpha = \frac{R(t)-R(T_t)}{|\tilde{T}|-1}
Proof:
Recall that the definition: R_\alpha (T) = R(T) + \alpha |\tilde{T}|, and T_t is a branch including node t. For any single node t \in T, we have
R_\alpha (t) = R(t) + \alpha
since there is only one terminal node at a single node.
Similarly, for any branch T_t \in T, we have
R_\alpha(T_t)=R(T_t)+\alpha |\tilde{T_t}|
When \alpha=0, R_0(t)=R(t)>R(T_t)=R_0(T_t). This inequality is guaranteed because the first step of pruning is to prune off all of the terminal nodes which satisfy R(t)=R(t_L)+R(t_R). That is, the remaining nodes must be satisfied R(t)>R(t_L)+R(t_R) (the details can be found in this post). Furthermore, the inequality holds for sufficient small \alpha.